The Hunger for Connection: How Attachment Shapes Our Relationship with Food, Body & Others
When we find ourselves using food to soothe emotions, overthinking our bodies, or struggling in relationships, it may be a sign that something deeper is at play, often rooted in early attachment patterns. Understanding these patterns can unlock a pathway to healing and empowerment.
In this episode of The Moon Collective Sanctuary Podcast, host Dr. Lydia Luna, Ph.D., licensed clinical psychologist and founder of Moon Collective Sanctuary, welcomes Patricia Martucci, LMFT, a trauma-informed therapist specializing in attachment, eating disorders, and somatic healing. Together, they explore how attachment styles shape the way we eat, relate to our bodies, and navigate relationships.
Attachment, Food, and the Body: A Deeper Connection
Attachment patterns formed in childhood often influence how we seek comfort, connection, and safety as adults. As Patricia explains, “Food is never just about food — it’s about safety, comfort, and the way we learned to be loved.”
When attachment needs go unmet, we may turn to food, substances, or behaviors as a substitute for connection, leading to disordered eating or a fraught relationship with our bodies. Trauma and unmet emotional needs can create a cycle of seeking security outside of ourselves rather than within.
Healing Begins in the Body
Patricia emphasizes the importance of somatic awareness and nervous system regulation as foundational steps toward healing:
“Even if you feel pain first in your body, there’s always a place that feels okay. Start there. Notice it. Build capacity internally. That’s where transformation begins.”
By learning to find comfort in the body, we strengthen our ability to self-soothe, regulate emotions, and gradually break patterns of disconnection. Healing is not just mental — it is embodied.
From Awareness to Transformation
Understanding attachment gives us tools to create healthier relationships with food, body, and people:
Notice patterns: When do you reach for food, body control, or avoidance instead of connection?
Identify triggers: Are these behaviors rooted in past attachment wounds?
Build internal resources: Practice grounding, mindfulness, or pleasurable activities that foster connection and safety within yourself.
As Patricia notes, “Anything we go through, if we can get to the other side, is a beautiful channel for healing. These struggles can lay the foundation for resilient, embodied lives.”
When to Seek Support
While some behaviors may be part of the human experience, clinical eating disorders or severe attachment challenges require professional support. Patricia advises:
“We always benefit from an outside perspective — someone qualified who can give honest feedback. Healing often begins when we surrender and invite guidance.”
Working with a therapist, dietitian, or family therapist can help ensure you are on the right path to meaningful and lasting recovery.
Attachment Is Not Fixed
Contrary to common belief, attachment styles are tendencies, not permanent identities. Through therapy, relational experiences, and conscious healing work, we can shift patterns and create healthier ways of connecting:
“We can create relationships the way we want them to be. It’s magical when we realize what is possible and that we can shift beyond our past patterns.” – Patricia Martucci
Healing attachment wounds isn’t just about mending the past — it’s about cultivating relationships, self-compassion, and trust in ourselves and others.
Final Thoughts: Healing Is Possible
Patricia leaves listeners with this empowering message:
“We all have struggles. Nobody’s perfect. But those who go deep into pain can illuminate in ways they never imagined. Find people who support your growth, trust life, and keep moving forward — healing is always possible.”
Connect with Patricia Martucci, LMFT
Patricia offers therapy in New York City, New Jersey, and virtually across California.
Website: patriciamartucci.com
YouTube: @PatriciaMartucci6454
🎧 Listen Now
Tune in to The Moon Collective Sanctuary Podcast for this episode exploring attachment, food, body awareness, and relationships. Available on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and YouTube.
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